Adults and Couples
See if this sounds or feels at all familiar...
You’ve done everything you know to either change this person or yourself, yet the harder you try, things seem to get worse…or, at least, not any better. But you don’t know what else to do. If you give up, the relationship will stay exactly where it is and you will be resigned to the unhappiness you are in right now. So, you see no other choice but to continue to try whatever methods you’ve been trying even if you know they don’t really work. Perhaps you think you need to get more creative in your efforts – but in your heart, you feel stuck… trapped. One of you may persues/fight and the other may withdraw…and you may switch roles.
Build A More Satisfying and Loving Relationship
This is the mutual trap couples tend to find themselves in before they seek therapy. It is a very common, usually private experience for each partner, regardless of who withdraws and who persues.
There are several reasons this develops and it is absolutely possible to stop this negative cycle and build a more satisfying, loving relationship.
In my practice, I use Emotion Focused Couples Therapy and the Gottman Method to make real and lasting change in couples who want to be better at conflict and attain real intimacy.
They are an integration of process, attachment, acceptance, and behavior change to get through those “stuck” places effectively and safely with each other. I do a thorough evaluation of you as a couple and each of you as individuals first, tailoring the goals of the couples counseling to your core needs.
Stress, Chronic Worry, and Fears
Intimacy / Sex Addiction
Behaviors which can harm relationships
Real and lasting change for couples
Difficulties in interacting with others
Competent, caring and compassionate therapist. I had a long history of family Abuse and anxiety... I'm glad to say they are much better because of Liz.
"After retirement it was time to finally face who I was, and Liz is helping me do that. She really gets me and 'hears' me. You are never too old to change."
"Liz is a bright, knowledgeable and compassionate professional. I would highly recommend Liz to anyone who is looking for quality care."
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How Do I Help Myself in Therapy?
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Find Balance and Stability in Your Life Patterns with Schema Therapy. Helping you to heal for lasting change.
If you have found that you have suffered from emotional pain or had a series of negative events happen on and off as a pattern throughout your life, schema therapy will help.
Schema therapy uncovers and corrects distorted patterns - it helps to break the old links. It is deeper emotional and cognitive work where we will identify your specific schemas and coping modes, helping you to heal them for lasting change. Schema Therapy gets to the root of the life patterns.